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Hello, My Name is Single

by Adriane Heins

Item #: 124426 / 2014 / Paperback / 160 Pages

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Whether you have chosen your singleness or whether the Lord has given it to you, whether you are content with your current situation or hate it with a deep and intense loathing, whether you long for relationships that no longer are or simply remember them with a quiet joy, you feel. You feel deeply. You are, perhaps, more in tune with your feelings than most. Because you reflect on what it would mean to have a spouse.

Hello, My Name Is Single is a witty book that challenges and encourages single men and women to live secure in Christ, whether they're searching for Mr. or Mrs. Right or completely content living the single life. Author Adriane Dorr Heins treats her readers to a delightful conversation of practical and personal issues many singles face. She offers a historical, biblical approach that reminds readers that their identities are found in Christ, not in relationship statuses on Facebook.

What Others Are Saying

"Hello, My Name Is Single is witty, engaging and, above all, completely honest. . . . . Heins dismantles the mythical trinity of independence, self-sufficiency and self-reliance. At the same time, she treats singleness as a station in life, a godly vocation that may or may not be permanent."

—Todd Wilken, Host of Issues, Etc.

"A great book for singles—and everybody else! With wry humor (and not a few trademark parenthetical comments), Adriane Heins takes on a topic that is usually politely ignored or cheapened with trite words that are often more hurtful than true. None of that here! Backed by research, experience and a keen eye for culture, she deftly chides, counsels and encourages both singles and those around them, always anchoring the discussion and the hope of all in their identity as those redeemed by Christ."

—Pastor Tim Pauls, Good Shepherd Lutheran Church, Boise, Idaho
Author of: You Ask About…Relationships (2007), Going Out, Getting Dumped and Playing Mini-Golf on the First Date (2005, now out of print)

"In Hello, My Name Is Single, Adriane Dorr Heins serves up a rich feast of Christ's comfort—a tasty meal brined in Holy Writ, peppered to perfection with the Lutheran Confessions and paired with a zesty wit—prepared especially for those yearning for the gift of a spouse. Though “Single” is the name written on the place card, Heins generously invites all of us to the banquet table to partake of the peace and joy which alone are found in our Lord Jesus and His Church. Bon appétit!"

—Katie Schuermann, author of He Remembers the Barren (LL, 2011) and Pew Sisters (CPH, 2013)

About the Author

Adriane Dorr Heins was born and raised in Marcus, Iowa. She is a 2005 graduate of Concordia University Wisconsin, Mequon. In 2010, she received a Masters of Arts degree in Theology from Concordia Theological Seminary, Fort Wayne. She has served as a copy editor of For the Life of the World; assistant editor and then managing editor of a publication for LCMS youth called Higher Things; the Christian life editor of Lutheran Woman's Quarterly, a publication of the Lutheran Women's Missionary League; and associate executive director for Strategic Communications for The Lutheran Church—Missouri Synod. Her work has appeared in Portals of Prayer, Reporter, Modern Reformation, and the third edition of CPH’s Women Pastors. Heins currently serves as the managing editor of The Lutheran Witness and executive editor of Catechetical Information for The Lutheran Church—Missouri Synod.

Book Excerpts

On Living Together Outside of Marriage
“Before you start to tell me that your boyfriend or fiancé is different than most men, or that the rent is too high and that moving in together is really just your way of being good stewards, or that you need some time to figure out if you’re compatible before you dive into marriage, stop. Because that’s bologna, and everyone—from your pastor to your parents—knows it. You’re not fooling anybody. Not even me, and I don’t even know you.”
On Men Trying to Understand Women
“Winston Churchill talked about enigmas wrapped in riddles inside of mysteries. He might well have been talking about relationships. Or the female mind because, let’s face it, it’s virtually impossible to understand that. Or he might have been talking about what it means to be a Christian single. Or how they get those jalapeños in those little tiny holes in olives.”
On Pornography
“That’s how the devil thwarts reality. He draws men into their fantasies, encourages them to indulge in it, hooks them on it like a drug addict who can’t go a day without getting a fix. But then comes the fantasy’s greatest irony: It shames you. You’re embarrassed. The feeling of condemnation is overwhelming. ‘You did WHAT?’ the devil gasps in horror. ‘How could you do something so awful? How could you look at those pictures or watch that movie? Some Christian you are!’ That’s why fantasies don’t work.”
On Fighting Sexual Temptation
“Reality is hard, but fantasies can be dangerous. So, ‘Resist the devil, and he will flee from you,’ (James 4:7). With the Lord’s help, fight that little bugger. And fight him out loud! Don’t just fight him in your head. Say the Lord’s Prayer out loud. Make the sign of the cross. Get out your hymnal and sing, ‘Satan, hear this proclamation: I am baptized into Christ!’ (LSB 594:3). Because he will hear, and he will listen . . . The Lord will see to that.”

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Great book!

This book is relatable and practical and sound. It esteems the order of creation as it was established by the Lord, recorded in the Scriptures, and is now upheld in the Church by God's grace. I enjoy the book's tone as much as its content and I have recommended it to many people. Just the other day a mother was talking to me about the singleness of her grown daughter. How great for me to be able to draw from what I learned in this book in my conversation with her! I also recommended the book to her, so that she might continue to think about this topic with Christian-minded love and faithfulness. Thanks, CPH, for this book!

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Author response

Hi, Jonathan. Thanks for your comment! I do want to clarify a couple of things: I'm neither a feminist, nor do I believe the world revolves solely around women. Quite the contrary! Our Lord has designed both sexes for unique and wonderful purposes, and it's sad that our world and culture fail to recognize those important and God-given differences. I do, however, believe that the Bible makes it clear that men are responsible for women, that they are given to protect and care for them, love them and even lay down their lives for them, just as Christ does for His Church. That is how men "serve" women, to use your term. It is difficult, self-sacrificing work men do for their mothers, wives, daughters and sisters, but that is precisely what makes them unique, and we as women are humbled and grateful! And as for whining, well, here I just thought I was being funny! When it comes to being single, a little levity goes a long way. :) PS Please do read Ladylike. It's a faithful read for men and women alike!

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Feminist view of men

This book states right at the outset that men were created to serve women. She actually says that. Serve as the ATM/human forklift/grounds keeper. Yup, you guys get with the program. The book is a blueprint for marriage 2.0. That is a complete reversal of what the bible says. Namely: Neither was man created for woman, but woman for man. Women want all the benefits and prerogatives of men with none of the risks. How many women reading this volunteered for duty in Vietnam? Do you even have a selective service number? Of course not. You want equality and yet you want to be protected. Ah no. You can't have the benefits of manhood without sharing in its burdens. Secondly, this is not an exegetical book; it is just Ms. Doer-Heins opinion. Much of the book is whining about why she is single. Finally, the book takes lots of smug pot-shots at men. Men don't do this they don't help at home and, in general, they aren't making us happpyyyy. Just maybe you're hooking up with the wrong guys? That is another big secret. Many LCMS parishoners are cohabiting. Read Pastor (LCMS) Mark Surburgs article "The Churches Institutionalized Fornication". The book to get is "Ladylike". I have not read it but as judged by the interviews the authors gave on Issues Etc., it would appear to be an outstanding read. I have a lot of respect for Rebekah Curtis and her sister.

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